I was listening to a story told by Dr. Patrick Quillin yesterday and felt compelled to pass it forward. It’s a story about a 94 year old woman that was asked her secret in maintaining quality mental and physical health. The following expresses the sentiments of her story:
When I was 5 years old my dog died. I was looking out the window and watching my father bury my dog. I was crying uncontrollably and felt great pain in my heart. When my father came inside, he saw me crying as I continued standing at the window staring at the freshly dug grave. He explained to me, “the pain of losing our dog could lessen by simply changing the window I was viewing her life and death from.” He then proceeded to prove his point.
He moved me away from the window to position me in front of another window where I could see four deer playing in the distance. They were playing and rubbing up against each other and enjoying their time together. Watching them made me laugh as I experienced the joy in watching their happiness. The pain in my heart at that moment was gone!
We all suffer great losses in life. This is an unpleasant, yet natural experience. We have a tendency, however, to repeatedly return to these windows that reveal the same painful images causing us great sorrow. Whether it comes from the love and support of another person or the personal willpower within, the willingness to view life from a different window often reveals hidden pleasures. It provides the mind and body a new vision; a new perspective overpowering the paralyzing pain the initial window displayed.
Is it possible one of the major underlying causes of our mental and/or physical problem(s) is the window we regularly stand behind? Has life’s experiences become so challenging and confusing, we’ve learned to find “comfort” behind this isolated window of pain, despair and sorrow?
A new healthier life can be achieved by giving oneself permission to unload harmful emotions. As damaging thoughts are removed, we become more willing to consider new windows that provide experiences supporting healthier living.