Whether a person is overweight, obese or morbidly obese, what is the FIRST identifiable “problem” noticed by most people? You guessed it, WEIGHT. Based on society’s aesthetic standards, excessive weight is the primary problem. Secondary problems develop from stereotypes associated with individuals carrying extra weight. They include laziness, self centeredness, ambitionless, impulsiveness, compulsiveness, lack of discipline and depression. These labels are hurtful and harmful adding to their existing difficulties. Mounting societal pressures co-mingled with feelings of self doubt ultimately lead to acts of desperation to reduce that terrifying “NUMBER” on the weight scale.
IN 104 WORDS AND A COUPLE OF MINUTES, I SUMMED UP THE PAIN THESE PEOPLE EXPERIENCE OVER 10, 20, 30 AND EVEN 40 YEAR OF LIVING WITH THIS CONDITION.
Are we really surprised a “mechanical solution” (DIET AND EXERCISE) to this emotionally devastating problem hasn’t worked?
This traumatic existence has caused so much harm (heightened by society’s insensitive response and attitude) it has resulted in a willingness to subject one’s life to even greater self harm to achieve a “NUMBER” on the scale. These desperate repetitive attempts (encouraged my marketing and advertising companies) are pursued under false pretenses believing the “NUMBER” (in and of itself) will improve self image and change society’s opinion of them.
In all my years in practice, I NEVER had a patient with weight management problems seek assistance identifying their emotional underlying issues contributing to their weight problems. They NEVER sought SLOW GRADUAL CHANGE to avoid complications from significant weight loss to create a HEALTHY LONG TERM “FIX.” They NEVER looked forward to the PROCESS and NEVER viewed the JOURNEY in a positive manner. They NEVER considered benefits of personal growth and development resulting in greater self confidence and self worth.
With great consistence, they typically focused on:
A “jump start” for quick results to help “motivate” them
A regimented plan to follow (typically a meal plan for each day of the week)
Exclusion of exercise if possible
What they wanted was a plan of action RESPONSIBLE for successful weight loss rather than a plan of action offering GUIDANCE requiring SELF COMMITMENT to achieving successful weight loss. Sometimes (subconsciously) they even wanted to fail using professionals (doctors, nutritionists, exercise trainers, etc…) to prove success was IMPOSSIBLE. This provided reassurance their failed attempts weren’t REALLY their fault. They WANTED everything EXCEPT the TRUTH! They NEEDED a PLAN OF ACTION using a COMPREHENSIVE APPROACH TO ACHIEVING:
TO ACHIEVE LONG TERM WEIGHT LOSS!
There will always be a few that achieve optimal results QUICKLY (without health compromises.) Many overweight people will point to these EXCEPTIONS believing this path is achievable for them too. It’s not (in 98+% of the cases.)
The LONG TERM SOLUTION isn’t discovered 3 months prior to a high school class reunion or 6 months prior to a wedding. The SOLUTION is discovered when a person is prepared to step outside their comfort zone motivated by an understanding that GOOD HEALTH is the FOUNDATION and ESSENTIAL BASIS for all LONG TERM POSITIVE walks in life. We have all heard the phrase, “practice makes perfect.” Practicing a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE makes achieving GOOD HEALTH possible and LIKELY. Until we accept this principle and are willing to substitute our current behaviors and lifestyles, it doesn’t make sense to make another failing attempt. If you know you can’t do it by yourself, seek professional guidance willing to LISTEN and understand YOU. If the plan of action designed is REALISTIC and one that can be maintained a LIFETIME, GO FOR IT! If it requires injections and pills and minimizes your role in a successful outcome, it will likely FAIL LONG TERM!
How do I know my approach will work any better without ever having met you? I have greater confidence in you, than you have in yourself. Why? Because I believe every person on this planet has a purpose for being here. You can’t accomplish your ultimate purpose following a path of destruction. Share in my confidence by focusing on achieving GOOD HEALTH. You will not only reach the “NUMBER” you seek on the scale, YOU WILL HAVE CREATED A LIFESTYLE TO MAINTAIN IT?