IT STARTS WITH SELF PRIDE

motivational-wallpaper-self-esteem-1080x608It starts the same way for all of us. We are born as infants fully reliant on our parents or caregivers to supply our every need. We slowly begin to develop both physically and mentally and begin to integrate our existence with the lives of others. We develop these skills as a result of nurturing or the innate will for instinctive survival.

At some point during this developmental phase we approach a fork in the road. Some follow the fork that leads to new opportunities for growth and personal development; others maintain the only path they have ever known, the path of simple survival.

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As we traverse these two paths, the experiences we encounter lead to the development of our CHARACTER. This, in essence, is the integration of all our experiences resulting in the principles we follow to live our lives. These experiences shape our morals, and ethics providing the foundation for our individual CHARACTER.

Once character has been established SELF PRIDE becomes the next principle to navigate.  Spiritually, some believe SELF PRIDE is a sin. According to Fabienne Harford who wrote, Seven Subtle Symptoms of Pride,

“Pride infects our eyesight, causing us to view ourselves through a lens that colors and distorts reality. Pride will paint even our ugliness in sin as beautiful and commendable.”

In secular terms, it is defined as,

“a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.”

Rather than argue which view most accurately defines SELF PRIDE, I would suggest we combine the best tenets each definition supplies to create a BALANCE producing positive value and importance to the concept of SELF PRIDE. If we can agree to this compromise, SELF PRIDE might be one of the most important components missing from a person’s CHARACTER preventing them from achieving GOOD HEALTH and HAPPINESS.

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Our CHARACTER is constantly under “assault” as each day reveals its own unique challenges. This barrage of stress reduces our “energy reserves” causing a shift in our thinking from “growth and development” to “simple survival.” This shift removes POSITIVE SELF PRIDE from behavior and substitutes NEGATIVE SHORT TERM pain relief in the form of

  • eating unhealthy,

  • watching TV or sitting in front of a computer for hours on end

  • avoiding social interaction with family and friends

  • taking medications to deal with depression, and so on.

If we are willing to recognize the reality of this situation we are also capable of PREVENTING it from occurring. This is achieved by:

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FUELING THE BODY/MIND WITH POSITIVE SELF PRIDE

BEFORE

OUR RESERVES DEPLETE

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This is accomplished through self introspection and determining the actions, activities and/or events in life that create POSITIVE SELF PRIDE. Turning to these actions, activities and/or events on a regular basis keeps the individual WELL GROUNDED and significantly more capable of dealing with daily challenges. Remove SELF PRIDE from the equation and we witness a loss of self value and self worth. This is a MAJOR CAUSE that results in DISEASE and DYSFUNCTION. Notice that this paradigm removes bacteria, viruses, doctors and pharmaceutical agents as the underlying MAJOR CAUSES and ANSWERS to disease and dysfunction.

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REGAINING POSITIVE SELF PRIDE provides the “motivation” needed to maintain a healthy level of SELF ESTEEM. This provides the MIND the ability to pursue a BALANCED LIFESTYLE. As we experience the rewards achieved by living a balanced lifestyle, a momentum develops that helps us sustain a path of continuing growth and development. The FEAR and need to return to our instinctive (protective) survival mode no longer exists. Our ability to live a healthy, productive and happy life filled with opportunity to nurture our POSITIVE SELF PRIDE becomes our new reality.

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BUT, TO FIND THIS REALITY

IT ALL STARTS WITH FINDING OUR SELF PRIDE!

 

 

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43 comments

  1. Now i wonder if a good balance of self pride is what has kept me from depression. Ive confounded a few different doctors with have fibro and ptsd but Ive never become depressed or felt down. Ive never lost interest in my art or helping family as much as I could. And I mean most days my body was like it was frozen. Movement was not an easy task thats for sure. Watching my family members one after the next battle cancer only to lose the fight. Granted they never stopped smoking and gave up on life thinking why bother. its a brutal thing to watch. Looking back at what Ive gone through sometimes I wonder how Ive not become depressed? I just tell my doctor my attitude is what saves me every time. Im just so grateful to be alive. Each day gives me a chance to make things better. Thats pretty awesome if you ask me! 🙂

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    1. It sounds like you have been through a great deal. Finding a sense of BALANCE in a world that often finds itself UNBALANCED is a challenging task. Attitude and PASSION in life plays a great part in discovering purpose and meaning to life. Waking up each day with a sense of purpose has created a great sense of happiness in my life.

      I hope you find what you seek in life while dealing with the physical and mental traumas you face. You are so spot on when you write, “each day gives me a chance to make things better.

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      1. Truly thank you so much for saying. its funny but i dont think i would change a thing. I have a great sense of gratitude from the second i wake up that honestly i dont even know who i would be if my life had gone any differently. i have so much to be thankful for how could i even look back in sorrow? i hope that makes some kind of sense to anyone reading this. 🙂 i will agree with you attitude, passion and having purpose is the key to happiness. i love reading that you are happy! its a great place to be and not easily achieve for sure! thank you for another post that has given me the chance to think about things and find even more positives in this day!

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        1. With your attitude, their is limitless potential. Go prove to the world that joy is possible regardless of the challenges life presents. Your energy is inspiring.

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          1. well reading that just gave me reason to do a big sigh! I believe the most important thing i can do each day is to practice living in Joy! its exactly what i say to myself if i feel like im about to get upset or annoyed. i wish more people could understand what power their attitude holds over them good or bad it really is the only thing we have any control over in my opinion at least. we cant decide what will happen in life but we most definitely can decide how we will react to things. thank you so much for your kind words Doctor Jonathan very nice of you to say 🙂

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            1. Your skill to control your reaction to your environment exceeds the average person’s ability. Most people don’t have the composure to stand back and evaluate the best way to move forward. They feel life dictates their circumstances and takes control over their lives. Your ability to remain grounded and in control is a gift and requires talent.

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              1. oh my god thank you so much for saying that truly what an awesome thing to read! and sad to say i was not born this way haha! took me years and years but thankfully im here and my daughter has followed in my footsteps its so incredible to watch her know at jeez maybe the age of 25ish what it took me well maybe 45 years to reach. I like having you here i hope you know and if you ask me you are the breath of fresh air! 🙂

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  2. Reblogged this on survivor road.

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    1. Thank you for sharing this message with your readers. I hope spreading this concept helps to reduce so much pain people live with every day while shedding some light on a possible alternative approach to reduce the burden.

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      1. You have a lot of truth in this one post – I hope it reaches others as well – there are so many that need to hear this.

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  3. “It all starts with finding our self pride”
    yes.
    the great hunt.

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    1. It’s within us; we simply need to move the accumulated pain we’ve developed over the years (out of its way) and begin “feeding” our self pride with the qualities that create VALUE and SELF WORTH.

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      1. “simply need to move the accumulated pain” …. simply perhaps
        simple?
        no.

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        1. agreed, certainly NOT simple!

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  4. I never really thought about “self pride” as a road block to good decisions, but this piece really got me thinking about it in that context.

    It is a really constructive way to think about it, Jonathan!

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    1. Thank you Tanya. I believe it’s a missing piece of the puzzle in many lives that goes unnoticed and unresolved. I’m hoping drawing attention to it gives people another tool to use to overcome limiting factors that prevent people from living lifestyles that support healthier outcomes.

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  5. This is so true. It explains what is happening to me. I have no self pride at this point in my life and actually during most of it. I wasn’t quite as bad when I was younger. Now that I am much older I have gotten worse. I am sure the psychiatric drugs don’t help, but I know what happens without them.

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    1. You are not alone. Communication with someone you are comfortable confiding in (preferably a licensed professional) is a good starting place. “Unloading” a lifetime of “baggage” frees up some “mental” room while helping to reduce stress. This is a great starting point to transition one’s old patterns of living to healthier new ones that produce positive reinforcement. Baby steps down this more productive pathway might assist you with finding better balance in your life.

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      1. You are so right!

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  6. Reblogged this on Advocate for Mental and Invisible Illnesses and commented:
    A great article about Self Pride!

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    1. Thank you Tessa.

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  7. Back to basics. Great post. It all starts/ends with our self image. Thanks. 💘

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    1. The concept is basic, but the PROCESS that allows SELF IMAGE to grow requires “feeding” over a life time. For it to have sustained meaning, we can’t view achieving it by getting over a few obstacles. There will always be new obstacles.

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  8. I love this term, self-pride. It coincides with a Buddha teaching I’m learning now, of loving one’s self. Who better to take care of you, than you?

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    1. Well said.
      The ability to feel good about oneself helps us find good in others. With a world distracted by violence, anger and fear finding purpose and meaning in life helps us attain new heights in personal growth and development. Self pride is a natural result of this PROCESS.

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  9. Finding a health balance of self esteem is difficult for many. It oftens inhibits and prohibits a person from reaching their full potential. I work hard trying to improve my wife’s and daughter’s self pride. Unfortunately, there is no easy way.

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    1. It is difficult and requires a willingness and commitment to finding a deeper more meaningful purpose for our existence. It’s a PROCESS that requires time, effort and an ability to believe in oneself. Each of us has the ability to make contributions to our own lives as well as those we care for. The desire to pursue these goals knowing ahead of time that failed attempts will likely occur before success is achieved must not be FEARED. Learning is about GROWTH. We can’t grow if we never make mistakes. Growth only ceases when we accept failure as the end result.

      As much as we would like to help others improve their self pride, they must first determine for themselves they possess VALUE and WORTH. This is the very basis upon which PRIDE grows. Encouragement then becomes a catalyst that catapults their efforts creating opportunities previously unavailable to their way of life. To witness this transformation touches the heart in ways that words can’t describe. I hope that you and your family achieve this level one day.

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  10. I like the fork in the road analogy because its is very accurate. Over the last 3 months I have been working out 5 times a week alternating 3 days resistance training and 2 days cardio. Being fairly athlete in high school I thought it would be a piece of cake but in the first 1.5 months, the thought of having to workout and work full time and do the house chores was exhausting. That was my fork in the road. Luckily I decided to push through it and now I feel weird if I don’t work out. I can provide a million reasons why I don’t want to workout in my 30s versus my 20s. It’s hard, I have more responsibilities now and who has the time. However you are right working through that has helped build my character and discipline.

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    1. You will see, Pam, the process and thought pattern becomes more difficult as we age requiring greater perseverance and recognition that the paths we choose to follow dictate the quality of life we live. You have mentioned the possibility of children in your life. There will likely be job changes and other important factors that create distortions to our thinking justifying the “inability” to maintain our commitment to healthy living. The temptation to “give in” and quit rears its ugly face throughout our lives. We must ALWAYS remember that no one will ever be more committed to our well being than ourselves. If we give up on ourselves, who will save us from this harmful alternative path most people turn to? If we turn to this alternate path, what kind of example are we setting for our families? A BALANCED healthy lifestyle offers the BEST opportunity for all of us. It’s not easy and never will be; but it provides an opportunity to enjoy a quality of life that can’t be matched.

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      1. Well said.

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  11. Love the first quote. Totally liberating. Character is everything and I believe just because we may choose the ‘wrong’ path for a long time doesn’t mean we can get to that fork in the path and choose another path at any point in time. Character is timeless and priceless.

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    1. I agree completely. There are always opportunities to turn our lives around by following a better course. For some it takes awareness; for others it requires tangible self harm to create enough fear and/or pain the individual becomes motivated. I try to encourage people to live a BALANCED REALISTIC lifestyle to avoid unnecessary detriment while maximizing their happiness with quality living. It requires effort, but most things of value in life do.

      Thank you for your comment. It adds real value to the meaning of this post and will help inspire people to consider finding an alternative lifestyle to the one they may be living.

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  12. Reblogged this on Hart of the Forest and commented:
    Excellent, excellent post from Doctor Jonathan over at All About Healthy Choices. You cannot separate the body, mind and spirit. It’s an integrated system.

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    1. Thank you for sharing this post with your readers, Karen. People need to learn we are more than the “sub total” of our individual parts.

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  13. Reblogged on Hart of the Forest. Great post!

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  14. A great post full of truth! We do need to have self pride that is where it all starts!

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    1. Thank you. I appreciate your support of this message.

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  15. Wow, Wow, Wow!!! I love this soooo much that it is precludes eloquence (mine, I mean)…I am reduced to freaking out inside…marvelling at how fantastically-expressed and comprehensive, your points are…awesome, beautifully expressed. I agree with every word…I can attest to the fact that the process of thriving (rather than just surviving)–is not always easy, exciting, inspiring, and clear-cut….but, it is always, always worth it. Even when you feel like you are destined to fail, heeding that small voice (that tells you you have nothing to lose by trying) is a life line that becomes a parasailing rope and harness…I have risen, and risen, and continue to rise….and, I know I, you, we can each stay the course and encourage each other along the way. Thank you, my friend, for another blessing….another life-affirming message. Your heart is magical….you are a wonder…thank you for sharing 🙂

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  16. This is a great post all around!

    I had never heard that Hippocrates quotation before, or if I had, it really spoke to me today. Maybe I am just more receptive to that message now than I have been in the past.

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  17. The beauty of opening out minds allowing our thoughts to evolve, gives us a chance to view our own lives from a new perspective. Traditional ideas provide a starting place when seeking direction. When these ideas only partially explain the answers to our questions we must be willing to reach in ALL directions and find the ADDITIONAL TRUTHS that exist. The goal is NOT to prove traditional ideas wrong, but rather to continue exploring options that may offer superior results. Defiance, in the name of tradition, creates an obstacle that limits both personal and societal growth.

    Being receptive (as you mention) to new ideas will provide you with so many more opportunities as you go through life. It makes the journey so much more exciting!

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  18. Reblogged this on Ulife and commented:
    True health and beauty begins from within and radiates out

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