It starts the same way for all of us. We are born as infants fully reliant on our parents or caregivers to supply our every need. We slowly begin to develop both physically and mentally and begin to integrate our existence with the lives of others. We develop these skills as a result of nurturing or the innate will for instinctive survival.
At some point during this developmental phase we approach a fork in the road. Some follow the fork that leads to new opportunities for growth and personal development; others maintain the only path they have ever known, the path of simple survival.
As we traverse these two paths, the experiences we encounter lead to the development of our CHARACTER. This, in essence, is the integration of all our experiences resulting in the principles we follow to live our lives. These experiences shape our morals, and ethics providing the foundation for our individual CHARACTER.
Once character has been established SELF PRIDE becomes the next principle to navigate. Spiritually, some believe SELF PRIDE is a sin. According to Fabienne Harford who wrote, Seven Subtle Symptoms of Pride,
“Pride infects our eyesight, causing us to view ourselves through a lens that colors and distorts reality. Pride will paint even our ugliness in sin as beautiful and commendable.”
In secular terms, it is defined as,
“a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.”
Rather than argue which view most accurately defines SELF PRIDE, I would suggest we combine the best tenets each definition supplies to create a BALANCE producing positive value and importance to the concept of SELF PRIDE. If we can agree to this compromise, SELF PRIDE might be one of the most important components missing from a person’s CHARACTER preventing them from achieving GOOD HEALTH and HAPPINESS.
Our CHARACTER is constantly under “assault” as each day reveals its own unique challenges. This barrage of stress reduces our “energy reserves” causing a shift in our thinking from “growth and development” to “simple survival.” This shift removes POSITIVE SELF PRIDE from behavior and substitutes NEGATIVE SHORT TERM pain relief in the form of
watching TV or sitting in front of a computer for hours on end
avoiding social interaction with family and friends
taking medications to deal with depression, and so on.
If we are willing to recognize the reality of this situation we are also capable of PREVENTING it from occurring. This is achieved by:
FUELING THE BODY/MIND WITH POSITIVE SELF PRIDE
OUR RESERVES DEPLETE
This is accomplished through self introspection and determining the actions, activities and/or events in life that create POSITIVE SELF PRIDE. Turning to these actions, activities and/or events on a regular basis keeps the individual WELL GROUNDED and significantly more capable of dealing with daily challenges. Remove SELF PRIDE from the equation and we witness a loss of self value and self worth. This is a MAJOR CAUSE that results in DISEASE and DYSFUNCTION. Notice that this paradigm removes bacteria, viruses, doctors and pharmaceutical agents as the underlying MAJOR CAUSES and ANSWERS to disease and dysfunction.
REGAINING POSITIVE SELF PRIDE provides the “motivation” needed to maintain a healthy level of SELF ESTEEM. This provides the MIND the ability to pursue a BALANCED LIFESTYLE. As we experience the rewards achieved by living a balanced lifestyle, a momentum develops that helps us sustain a path of continuing growth and development. The FEAR and need to return to our instinctive (protective) survival mode no longer exists. Our ability to live a healthy, productive and happy life filled with opportunity to nurture our POSITIVE SELF PRIDE becomes our new reality.
BUT, TO FIND THIS REALITY
IT ALL STARTS WITH FINDING OUR SELF PRIDE!