Life would be so much easier IF we grew up as children understanding the concept:
Instead, we have a tendency growing up as “extensions” of previous generations following their patterns of behavior. This, inevitably, leads to developmental challenges we face as we age. Whether these problems manifest themselves in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s or 50’s we find ourselves seeking
ALL OF LIFE’S CHALLENGES WE CURRENTLY FACE.
We desperately want to simply our lives so we create a FALSE BELIEF in our minds. We convince ourselves that addressing one tangible issue will create a domino effect aligning all of life’s difficulties and making them all “disappear.” We convince ourselves “if we can just fix” THE weight problem, THE money problem, THE job problem, THE family problem, or THE health problem, etc… the rest of life will magically fall into place.
This explains the appeal of infomercials. They help identify the consumer’s problem and provide “THE SOLUTION” resulting in the desired outcome. The consumer lacks the confidence (in many cases) to develop a realistic “PROCESS” to successfully address their own issues. The infomercial (steps in) offering a step by step approach to solving THE weight problem, THE money problem, THE job problem, THE family problem, and THE health problem.
How often do these infomercials successfully provide LONG TERM SOLUTIONS achieving life time quality improvement? Many of these infomercials offer value to the consumer, however, their role is limited. They have a tendency to create a “cookie cutter” solution that each individual personality must adapt to and follow regardless of how it fits their situation.
Discovering and achieving LONG TERM SOLUTIONS requires learning and understanding a “PROCESS” that conceptually creates a mind set focusing on a particular lifestyle. This “PROCESS” overrides personal emotions that often sabotage one’s efforts. This “PROCESS” teaches us a formula to follow based on our INDIVIDUAL personalities and needs providing a strong foundation for development.
It INTEGRATES a solution to the commonality of ALL OUR PROBLEMS.
This is the
KEY TO PROBLEM SOLVING!
We no longer have to come up with individual answers (in this example) to weight problems, or money problems, or job problems, or family problems, or health problems. By conceptualizing a common theme or trend and applying an approach that resolves the “behaviors” interfering with successful outcomes we create a
“PROCESS” TO FOLLOW!
Learning to apply this approach to life reduces stress by minimizing the number of solutions we must “create” throughout our lifetime. We are creatures of habit; both good and bad. Discovering this approach provides a common answer to behavioral attitudes we need to change to create the lifestyles we desire.
How do we fix our thinking?
We stop thinking in terms of individual items on a “To Do List” and start thinking CONCEPTUALLY how to accomplish this list. For example, a handyman might be able to do 5 things on your list, while you’re creating personal time and enjoying a picnic lunch in the park. Projects are getting completed while you’re reducing stress AND enjoying some quality outdoor living. If money is an issue, you can barter your services with another person or organization and help each other without incurring a financial expense. This is creative thinking that uses a “PROCESS” to overcome life’s obstacles.
We set structured action steps (that incorporate some flexibility for unforeseen events) and create REALISTIC time frames as PART OF A “PROCESS” rather than assigning individual steps to each project undertaken. For example: If you want to lose weight AND reduce expenses, an action step might be: (a) a reduction in food budget. This creates ONE step that addresses TWO issues. The time frame (call to action) is immediate and the goal (reduced expenses) is achieved with flexibility in budgetary spending. This is what I mean by conceptual thinking and creating a PROCESS to achieving desired goals.
We accept the inevitability of FAILURE during the course of “learning” this new behavior and adjust our attitudes to maneuver ourselves around both mental and physical obstacles we’re exposed to. This is NOT FUN, but extremely important if we are going to GROW and learn to DEVELOP from the experience. This growth further enhances our skills at conceptual thinking and improving the PROCESS (“under construction.”)
We learn and practice PATIENCE. Life is not easy and requires a flexibility in attitude and behavior to minimize the volatility we face in our daily lives. Some PROCESSES take some people longer to master. This is NOT a race. Find a speed you are comfortable traveling and find ENJOYMENT IN THE JOURNEY! Don’t wait until the end hoping the journey was worth it.
Take time to SELF REFLECT. We have a tendency to rush life in an attempt to satisfy the need to say we “got things done.” Each of us must decide for ourselves, is it QUALITY or QUANTITY we seek? Self reflection gives us time to clearly see (without distractions) if we are truly following the “PROCESS” we’ve designed or returning to older patterns that interfere with our objectives.
Finding your way to discovering THE “PROCESS” that’s right for you can provide a future of great happiness. I believe it is worth taking the time to learn and understand your needs in order to creatively design a plan to achieving them. Why not begin discovering the PROCESS you need to follow to open a world of opportunity waiting to be explored. This can be the difference between LIVING A LIFE OF CHOICE or LIVING A LIFE OF CIRCUMSTANCES.