Life would be so much easier IF we grew up as children understanding the concept:


Instead, we have a tendency growing up as “extensions” of previous generations following their patterns of behavior. This, inevitably, leads to developmental challenges we face as we age. Whether these problems manifest themselves in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s or 50’s we find ourselves seeking


to overcoming



We desperately want to simply our lives so we create a FALSE BELIEF in our minds. We convince ourselves that addressing one tangible issue will create a domino effect aligning all of life’s difficulties and making them all “disappear.” We convince ourselves “if we can just fix” THE weight problem, THE money problem, THE job problem, THE family problem, or THE health problem, etc… the rest of life will magically fall into place.

This explains the appeal of infomercials. They help identify the consumer’s problem and provide “THE SOLUTION” resulting in the desired outcome. The consumer lacks the confidence (in many cases) to develop a realistic “PROCESS” to successfully address their own issues. The infomercial (steps in) offering a step by step approach to solving THE weight problem, THE money problem, THE job problem, THE family problem, and THE health problem.

How often do these infomercials successfully provide LONG TERM SOLUTIONS achieving life time quality improvement? Many of these infomercials offer value to the consumer, however, their role is limited. They have a tendency to create a “cookie cutter” solution that each individual personality must adapt to and follow regardless of how it fits their situation.

Discovering and achieving LONG TERM SOLUTIONS requires learning and understanding a “PROCESS” that conceptually creates a mind set focusing on a particular lifestyle. This “PROCESS” overrides personal emotions that often sabotage one’s efforts. This “PROCESS” teaches us a formula to follow based on our INDIVIDUAL personalities and needs providing a strong foundation for development.

It INTEGRATES a solution to the commonality of ALL OUR PROBLEMS.


This is the


We no longer have to come up with individual answers (in this example) to weight problems, or money problems, or job problems, or family problems, or health problems. By conceptualizing a common theme or trend and applying an approach that resolves the “behaviors” interfering with successful outcomes we create a


Learning to apply this approach to life reduces stress by minimizing the number of solutions we must “create” throughout our lifetime. We are creatures of habit; both good and bad. Discovering this approach provides a common answer to behavioral attitudes we need to change to create the lifestyles we desire.

How do we fix our thinking?

  1. We stop thinking in terms of  individual items on a “To Do List” and start thinking CONCEPTUALLY how to accomplish this list. For example, a handyman might be able to do 5 things on your list, while you’re creating personal time and enjoying a picnic lunch in the park. Projects are getting completed while you’re reducing stress AND enjoying some quality outdoor living. If money is an issue, you can barter your services with another person or organization and help each other without incurring a financial expense.  This is creative thinking that uses a “PROCESS” to overcome life’s obstacles.

  2. We set structured action steps (that incorporate some flexibility for unforeseen events) and create REALISTIC time frames as PART OF A “PROCESS” rather than assigning individual steps to each project undertaken. For example: If you want to lose weight AND reduce expenses, an action step might be: (a) a reduction in food budget. This creates ONE step that addresses TWO issues. The time frame (call to action) is immediate and the goal (reduced expenses) is achieved with flexibility in budgetary spending. This is what I mean by conceptual thinking and creating a PROCESS to achieving desired goals.

  3. We accept the inevitability of FAILURE during the course of “learning” this new behavior and adjust our attitudes to maneuver ourselves around both mental and physical obstacles we’re exposed to. This is NOT FUN, but extremely important if we are going to GROW and learn to DEVELOP from the experience. This growth further enhances our skills at conceptual thinking and improving the PROCESS (“under construction.”)

  4. We learn and practice PATIENCE. Life is not easy and requires a flexibility in attitude and behavior to minimize the volatility we face in our daily lives. Some PROCESSES take some people longer to master. This is NOT a race. Find a speed you are comfortable traveling and find ENJOYMENT IN THE JOURNEY! Don’t wait until the end hoping the journey was worth it.

  5. Take time to SELF REFLECT. We have a tendency to rush life in an attempt to satisfy the need to say we “got things done.” Each of us must decide for ourselves, is it QUALITY or QUANTITY we seek? Self reflection gives us time to clearly see (without distractions) if we are truly following the “PROCESS” we’ve designed or returning to older patterns that interfere with our objectives.

Finding your way to discovering THE “PROCESS” that’s right for you can provide a future of great happiness. I believe it is worth taking the time to learn and understand your needs in order to creatively design a plan to achieving them. Why not begin discovering the PROCESS you need to follow to open a world of opportunity waiting to be explored. This can be the difference between LIVING A LIFE OF CHOICE or LIVING A LIFE OF CIRCUMSTANCES.

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  1. I always feel the conviction in your words, Jonathan. Thank you for sharing the truth and your wisdom. You are a great source of inspiration! 🙂

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    1. Thank you Kelly. I so much appreciate your work as well as it helps me balance my tone and attitude in life. Keep writing, keep smiling and keep enjoying all life has to offer!

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      1. I will try, doc! Thank you for your kind words! Same to you! 🙂

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  2. I love this. Thanks for sharing the steps that can be worked to develop our personal PROCESS. It’s worth working this out for my life, because overall I just want to be happy and productive in the days/weeks/months/years I have left on this earth, hoping they are many.

    When I read the word “commonality”, it made me think of something that happened with my younger son.

    He was 6 or 7 yrs old at the time, when he picked up a rock one day, held it to his ear, listened for a bit, then whispered something back to it before throwing it in a creek that we were walking past. When I asked him what he was doing, he said, “Me and that rock, we have a commonality.” What?! I couldn’t believe he knew the word, or what it meant. How could he, I certainly wasn’t in the habit of talking that way to him, although we have never dumbed-down our speech patterns for our children.

    Today, I think it was a God-wink. This is the son that hates to see a tree chopped down, or our house cat with another chipmunk she’s caught. He is attached to the earth and it’s creatures and constructs in a way I never was, and as a result, I think he is a big picture person in a way I never have been. I need to be more like him.

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    1. Thank you for sharing that wonderful story. Children don’t worry about “defensive posturing.” They see things as they are from an innocent perspective. We can learn A LOT from children that would make this world an easier place to live.

      Wishing you much success on finding and pursing your “PROCESS” to achieving the life you choose to live.

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  3. I don’t have time to read this, I’m working on my “to do list”, haha, seriously well done my friend, this blog helps me in all my OCD traits!

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    1. Thanks Frank. I’m just glad I’m not the only one reading my blogs! 🙂


  4. Whatever I tell my kid angrily or happily, he always reciprocates the same. And many a time his attitude made me to sick to my balance. Yes he is my best tutor and lot more to lean from kids.
    Your points are really worth , especially the one demanding self respect. i believe, it’s the self confidence and self respect that forms a person..

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    1. I believe these two words are interconnected. We gain self confidence as we recognize the NEED to gain self respect. We achieve this by the actions we take in life. The more we practice this “PROCESS,” the faster it becomes part of our character.

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      1. Yes. It is

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  5. I love this post. Right at the beginning you nailed the problem for many. The idea that we are extensions of previous generations. We have to formulate our dreams and be strong in the conviction that our parents failures or disadvantages will not be obstacles for us. Thank you for this.

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  6. Thanks for sharing good post

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to stop by. I appreciate your efforts to create greater awareness regarding animals and the plight they face. I have a beagle that I rescued from a pet rescue organization in South Carolina, USA. Keep up the good work and continue promoting for the cause. Hope to see you back.
      Stay healthy and happy

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      1. Thank you for your concern about animals.

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  7. Jonathan another great post….can’t read this one enough!!!! thanks…kat reblogged this one on my post….

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    1. Thanks Kat. I always appreciate when you offer your assistance and pass the messages forward to your readers. It’s the nicest compliment.


  8. Reblogged this on Time No Matter and commented:
    This is a good read….

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  9. What a great post.
    It took me years to get busy living so I love the Rumi quotation on life and death.
    Quite perfect.

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    1. Every now and then we all need to step back and see whether we are truly “Living Life” or simply “Existing And Trying To Get By.” Hope this helps jumpstart those caught in the “trying to get by” vicious cycle.

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      1. Me too. Everyone needs to take a look at what is important and act on it.

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  10. This is beyond awesome and I can relate to every word….fantastic post…so wise and comprehensive and generous and uplifting and hope-inspiring….and validating….and, “It feels good to be lost in the wrong direction” is a new quote that resonates with me on sooooo many levels. Thank you for sharing…and, so wonderful to “meet” you 🙂

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    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed the article. Sharing experiences that can help people achieve better health and happiness is a passion and mission of my blog site. After 20 + years in clinical practice, I continue to enjoy communicating ideas that can help people uncover physical and emotional components interfering with quality living.
      It is a pleasure meeting you as well.

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