Just imagine you had to live for 24 hours in A DARK ROOM whose dimensions were 8’X10″, lit by a 5 watt bulb without any furniture other than a sleeping cot. The closest town to this oversized “box” was 50 miles away. Close your eyes and envision the life you would live for the next 24 hours under these conditions. Seriously, take a moment to close your eyes and picture what a 24 hour day under these conditions would look like and feel like to you. After you open your eyes, see if the picture you created in your mind sounds similar to the one I describe.
The first thing I notice and feel is the silence. It creates a sense of calmness and relaxation. Why you ask? Because this dark room belongs only to me. There is no evil, no distractions, no one to answer to, no one to be hurt by. It becomes a place of sanctuary and peace.
In the limited light, I can see only me for the first time. This is comforting because under these conditions no one can judge me and add to any insecurity I may feel. I alone can judge what I see. To gain greater perspective, I can close my eyes and call on my brain to stimulate the rest of my senses. Can I feel my heart beating? Can I smell the lingering scent of strangers that have stayed here in the past? Can I taste the air with my tongue? Can I feel my lungs expand? Can I hear what darkness sounds like? How exciting it feels to become aware of the complexity of my body and its ability to function without any thoughtful effort on my part.
A DARK ROOM, in addition, offers me a valuable gift that eludes many people living outside of it. It offers me TIME. Time to sleep, to meditate, to stretch, to exercise, to plan and to catch up on my thoughts and needs. Time offers me the freedom to decide how and when and how often. I am no longer a slave to appointments and other time related responsibilities.
This dark room offers me a chance to experience ME and the world within its parameters I chose to create. In this setting, I choose to expand my world by creating my own source of light and experience the blessing that could only be accomplished under these conditions.
When you opened your eyes, was this your vision too?
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For many, the vision was loneliness in a fearful environment with walls that were so close they felt as if they were slowly closing in. A sense of desperation; a need to escape back to a world filled with noise and turmoil and chaos. Anything seemed better than the fear experienced being alone with nothing to do other than focusing on new experiences of misery and anxiety yet to come once returning to the real world.
Do you find it interesting that different people under the same circumstances can view life with such diametrically opposing views? One person can see desirable potentials with a natural tendency to find positive in any of life’s experiences while the second person can only see the darkness and the fear that accompanies it.
Which person are you?
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the “destination” of that dark room has never been a choice for me. it’s always been the claustrophobic, evil-filled place of abuse, terror, and pain. I agree it can be one or the other – I just don’t get the “choosing” aspect. Maybe it just depends on the person…
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For those who feel they have no choice, there might be something impeding their judgement and thought process. A life of darkness is not exclusive to the blackness of the night. It is commonly experienced in the brightest of sunshine during the day. Commonality, however, is not justification nor one of choice in many circumstances. Discovering the roots that detoured one’s life into experiencing life from this perspective might be an important step for those wanting to view life from a more positive direction.
Just as the body’s natural course is one of health, it too can become impeded from a lifetime of “abuse” resulting in an “unnatural” course of disease. I wonder if a similar analogy may exist where a person can’t see the light of life unless it engulfs there entire reality.
I appreciate your comment. It provides a perspective I need to understand better. Thank you so much for sharing it.
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Thanks for accepting my input – I wasn’t sure it would be but felt it needed said. I am an individual who went through a lot of abuse as a child – I live in the “blackness”, though maybe not as ‘dark’ as it has been – years of therapy have me to where at least now I know why I’m miserable. Thanks again for accepting.
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I commend you for seeking assistance to understand your situation. This is a necessary step to removing a “shell” of protection from society as a whole. The more insight you experience the more choices become available. I have witnessed many people overcome great adversities to ultimately find new paths in life providing comfort and meaning. I hope you are able to find a path in life that suits and satisfies your needs in a healthy and productive manner.
Thank you again for willingness to share a part of your history and emotions with our community.
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I immediately thought of solitary confinement! Wow, amazing how different our perspectives can be! Thought provoking!
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I love the diversity in responses. Mix all these personalities together in a room without any judgement and you’d experience a party of a lifetime! I’m really enjoying the different comments.
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I usually think positively about being alone, maybe it’s the idea of darkness…
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I can understand. Night time and darkness is commonly associated with danger. Maybe in your dark room we can include tapes of Carol Burnett’s greatest hits to create some levity. 🙂
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That’ll be perfect! Ha!
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I thought of silence, alone time, even reflection on myself….kind of interesting actually. I reblogged this as well 🙂
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Nice to see A Dark Room provided you an environment of nurturing. I am looking forward to seeing how many people view this Room as a place of evil or a place of solace.
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I think is all in the person’s state mind. It will be interesting to see and hear about it.
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At the start of your post I was expecting Rod Serling to come out and narrate. It is funny how people can perceive the same thing in different ways. Since I try to focus on the positive, I would experience peace, tranquility, and perhaps a burst of creativity. Life has taught me to be happy with my glass half full. Nice post.
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Nice to see your positive spin. My motive for writing this was to see (based on the comments) if most people would view this experience as beneficial or detrimental. It gives me better perspective to understand conflicts in health from an emotional perspective.
I wonder if I included a TV, VHS and the Halloween movie series if your view of A Dark Room might have been different? 😀
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Hahaha You did it perfectly. I would view it as something positive. Ten years ago I would have seen it as a negative, but recent problems in life has taught me there’s always a silver lining. I welcome a pit stop in the dark room.
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You are definitely on the road to achieving balance. Enjoy its majesty.
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Thanks. The friend we discussed in today’s poem just informed me she is taking steps to improve her life. My little victory fills me with such joy. It must be wonderful healing broken people and making a difference in their lives as you do. Thanks for everything
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I picture a haven. My husband always jokes that I’d be happiest living in a cave, lol. I can see how some people would see it in the opposite way though. Great analogy!
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I am slightly surprised to see more people viewing A Dark Room in a positive manner. This encourages me to believe that people may be happier and more satisfied with themselves and life than I believed. This is a great way to start my day!
As far as the cave is concerned, don’t start encroaching on OUR space. It is called the MAN CAVE for a reason! 😀
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This makes me think of what used to go on in dark rooms, where amazing photographs were turned to art, life, memories, and treasures for those with an appreciative eye. It’s that type of dark room I want to find myself in–the one where miracles happen and we get to take them home with us to enjoy forever!
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Great perspective on the concept of A Dark Room. What direction would your mind take you in the Dark Room I created? I am trying to learn where people’s subconscious mind’s reside in situations that can be perceived in a positive or negative manner.
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For a few hours I believe I would enjoy the quiet, time for my mind to slow down, time to contemplate, time to escape the world–time would be available. Time would be at my disposal. That would be awesome. After a while, though, I think I would have to fight back boredom. My mind and being is programmed to go, go, go…work harder…do more. To slow down, be silent, meditate alone, it could be a blessing, but I think it would be a hard blessing to sustain.
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Thank you for answering my question. Your answer reveals insight into a struggle you have spoken about in your postings; ACHIEVING BALANCE. When a person has achieved balance, they are able to shift their emotions to fit the situation they are in to achieve a positive outcome. This is different than being able to “tolerate a situation” before emotions take over and require a change of activity or venue. Learning to “soak up” the moment and consume all the good it offers improves patience (I know, an unknown word to many 🙂 ) reduces stress and improves our quality of living. As you continue on your journey I am convinced you will one day surprise yourself with a new self awareness and abilities that far exceed your current capacity.
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An important topic to discuss Jonathan, great post.
My experience teaching meditation is that the silence and the darkness scares people. The silence does not allow us to run from our pain or wounds, and this can cause anxiety and fear in many. Knowing how many people practice meditation, I would say that the silence of any room would cause concern. It took me awhile to become comfortable with silence, facing grief and guilt, I learned to work through my fears, I learned to feel the pain, breathing our my emotions slowly over time. It really is a practice, but as it became easier, I saw beyond my pain and the darkness began to lift.
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There are so many wonderful tools at our disposal to handle difficult aspects of life. Accepting problems exist as well as reaching out to others for guidance are the beginning steps needed to finding resolution. Meditation has been a marvelous healing art that has successfully improved the quality of lives over many years. This too, however, requires a commitment of time, practice and patience. For each of us it comes down to our priorities. Thank you for sharing and offering a potential solution.
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Interesting starting place. I wonder how introversion vs extroversion factors into the equation and how people see themselves in a dark room.
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Sounds like my bedroom at night….I love the darkness, it brings me a sense of peace and tranquility….always has….my light by my bed is very dim and tiny….I could live by moonlight alone at night…and I never use lights when I am up to the bathroom…my husband says I must be part cat…LOL great article….
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Well, it sounds like you’d adapt to this scenario easily. It shows your initial reaction is welcoming and less fearful of the unknown. I’ve always known your part cat; it’s phonetically spelled out in your name! 🙂
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yes it is…and my nickname has always been kat….LOL
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Peace and solitude equals heaven to me, and the dark, a time to really relax and sleep and think but I would also be half expecting Deepack Chopra’s voice ..such a soothing voice, to be telling me to ” breathe” and repeat his mantra for the day 🙂
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With so many optimistic remarks about darkness, isolation and solitude, I have become re-energized and more confident that our world has greater self awareness than I anticipated. I hope this translates into action steps to help achieve personal growth.
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I have been living in the dark room for a decade now 🙂
I enjoyed reading this post. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Love and light ❤
Anand
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I hope for you it has been by choice. I also hope the small amount of light this room shared provided enough intensity to illuminate a path of your choice in life to follow. Too much of anything good or bad creates imbalance. It might be time to offset 10 years of darkness with opportunities for new light. Wishing you much joy and happiness.
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Yes balance is a must that is why I am moving out of the dark room via blog now. About choice I would say yes and no as I feel no one is absolutely free to choose. Only illusion of choice exists 🙂
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Excellent point regarding the illusion of choice. Thank you for identifying this.
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🙂 🙂 🙂
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A great post, thought provoking…
I do love silence, loneliness, but darkness.. I don’t like to sleep in a dark room. I am not afraid, I think so 😉 but I just would prefer at least a dim-light …
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A dim light shows a desire for greater awareness. It adds the sense of sight to the overall experience. I have a feeling you are at a good place in life.
Stay healthy and happy.
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🙂 thank you… Definitely I am at the best place in my life. And I would add, I was and I will be 🙂
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My answer was very much like yours. I thought about all the thinking time I’d have and the opportunity to catch up on sleep and meditation and prayer. I’d have so many conversations with God. I’d love it. It’s not everyday we get such an opportunity for solitude.
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Your answer reflects a person at peace with themself. This shows excellent grounding. I have found many athletes to share this quality. I hope it helps you achieve future goals.
Have a wonderful weekend.
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Welcome to my world. A dark, small prison filled with despair and pain. That is how I spend most of my life. Isolated in this room. Occasionally I do fumble out of it and join the world. It all depends on my moods at the time. Depressed, this small prison is dark and no computer. I just lie there and dwell on how horrible life is for hours on end. Sometimes I sleep. having a bad time right now. They tweaked my medicine and I am a jumbled mess. Great story. I am alone in the dark by choice of my brain and where it is in its cycle. I haven’t been stable for months now.
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Hoping your body finds balance helping regulate your emotions. You have had a long journey with a great deal of hardship. Take one day at a time and find happiness in your heart.
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Thanks Jonathan. My body can sometimes be encouraged into relaxation and even some fun, but then that cursed brain (I shouldn’t curse the brain that is intelligent and creative, one thing I have had all my life too), but it will come back and take me back darkville. Manicville isn’t all fun either. they want to add another medication to my cocktail. The Cymbalta does nothing for my Fibromyalgia, but it works on my psychiatric symptoms. Gabapentin, another Fibro medicine with psychiatric properties my Rheumatologist and my psychiatric nurse who does my meds want to add it. They are in agreement.
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The thought of being in a dark room is a nice one but it could also be deemed to be restrictive. I like the lack of sensory overload as a way of relaxing and escape but I am not sure how good I would be at it and certainly not for 24hrs!
Certainly a thought provoker Doc!
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Each of our reactions to this setting helps to identify character traits. It’s not meant to judge; just to explain people and their responses under challenging moments. Glad you found it interesting.
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Indeed I did!
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Wow! This reminds me of a ritual I had as a little girl that I haven’t thought about in such a long time! It consisted of only me and a dark room. Amazing how, I haven’t thought of it in so long but whenever I came from that room I was empowered. Wow (at the memory) esp since I was such little thing. Thanks for sharing! Light and Love, Shona
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Interesting how thought provoking commentary can tap into the brain to stimulate memories of the past. I have really enjoyed reading the comments. They have been far more positive than I would have assumed. Many of the readers are quite optimistic and control their emotions better than I would have believed. Glad you enjoyed it.
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Deep! Thank you, for reading my blog post.
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I like your ideas. Thank you for taking your time and reviewing my articles.
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I’d love this dark room! I’d bring my yoga mat to stretch and relax but also my laptop to write some poetry and short stories. I’d be content for the 24 hours in there by myself but would also welcome the light afterwards. Balance, right? Lol. Oh, and potty breaks would be nice, too 🙂
Fun and thought provoking post once again! You’re just so unpredictable — love it!!
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I believe your personality would have successfully converted our internment camps into recreational sites for self growth and development. Your ability to “create” a positive attitude in any situation always astounds me. Great response!
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Thank you for your encouraging words. I welcome your comments and look forward to seeing you again. Stay healthy and happy.
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