A HEALTH SPAN THAT EQUALS A LIFESPAN

NvWyqgz3When you think about goals in life what are the most common goals you think about? Are they about family, jobs, careers or money? How do you approach these goals? Is there a game plan with incremental reviews to make certain you are on target to achieving your goals? Are they really goals or more likely dreams? There is nothing wrong with dreaming and dreaming big, but it is important to recognize a dream without a game plan is nothing more than a WISH, a desire.
I once read a story by a gifted writer named Karen, (Healing Your Grief) asking the reader to list all the things in life they loved. It then asked the following question, “how many things did you list before you placed your name on the list?” In many cases our names never even make the list. This either means we don’t truly love ourselves or we take ourselves and our lives for granted. In either case this proves the existence of a void in many of our lives.
As I have attempted to help people understand the effort required to becoming healthy, I realized that without truly loving and respecting oneself attaining this goal was unlikely. Until the need to love oneself was truly recognized as an ESSENTIAL NEED, the emptiness behind this current state of emotion was aligned more closely with a dream or wish than a goal.
2c5fda6f940a45b4ae50663ad68733adDo you love and respect yourself? PROVE IT (not to me,) but to yourself. What steps do you take to make your life more complete? What steps do you take to adapt to the stresses listed as the goals in the first paragraph of this article? These would include family, jobs, career and money. Until you are ready to change the mindset and view your life from a different perspective, life will remain volatile. This automatically places your health in a compromised state REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU FEEL!
If you would rather have a health span that equals a lifespan it is time to WILLINGLY accept some changes that will reinforce the message about self love. These changes will improve your ability to re-energize and commit to a game plan that will ultimately put you on the emotional, physical and spiritual path of success. To succeed, however, you can’t approach this new idea unless you are 100% committed to self love and self improvement. This does NOT mean each and every day will be limited to positive affirmations.  It means you are willing to accept life’s challenges and do what it takes to overcome all its obstacles. You may experience several failed attempts, but persistence and self commitment will result in achievement. It is this type of attitude that must be realized in order to begin the process.
The following are a list of action steps. These are ideas to incorporate into your game plan. ONLY YOU CAN CREATE THE ACTUAL GAME PLAN. A game plan is defined as, “organized steps needed to create a tangible direction that will LIKELY require adaptations to ultimately achieve the goal.” Remember, it’s not an easy journey, but it’s not supposed to be. If it was easy EVERYONE WOULD BE FOUND ON THE SAME PATH.

ACTION STEPS:

  1. Create personal time for yourself EVERYDAY. It doesn’t matter if it’s only 5 minutes because the commitment to yourself is crucial to owning the concept of self love.
  2. RESPOND rather than REACT to life’s situations. Look at the situation as if it was an “out of body” experience. This will help provide a clearer picture rather than attempting to create a solution while standing in the middle of a problem. If you have enough time, run your solution by someone you trust for a second opinion. Do NOT ask someone else UNTIL you have come up with a possible solution. This adds a level of self confidence to the equation and creates an increase in self respect.
  3. Create a list of priorities. Do NOT overwhelm yourself by making the list too long. Place about 3 items on the list and create a game plan to accomplish these priorities. Do not add or subtract from the list. If it is a true priority, be patient with yourself and work diligently until the list IS ACCOMPLISHED.
  4. Recognize that your health is essential for ANY GAME PLAN! On a weekly basis, decide on changes you are willing to implement to improve the quality of your health? This list is as much (if not more) a priority than the previous action step because without your health, it won’t be possible to achieve the other goals. A partial list to achieve this action step includes: (1) better food choices, (2) exercise, (3) increased water intake, (4) better quality sleep, (5) stress reduction outlets (we will always have stress; we need to find outlets and learn how to channel our stress in a POSITIVE MANNER.)
These action steps will provide a good starting point for most people ready to commit their lives back to themselves. Experiencing a life of self love and self respect creates greater choices and opportunities. These include the love of family, the successful job or career and the ability to achieve financial security. Notice that taking care of personal needs in an organized meaningful fashion brought us full circle back to the original goals listed in the opening paragraph of this article. This is not a coincidence. Finally, it will help you achieve:

A HEALTH SPAN THAT EQUALS A LIFESPAN!

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27 comments

  1. Great post my friend. When I set my goals, I never include my name on that list. Like many others, my health is usually an afterthought. Of your actions steps I have followed number one for several years. I need to make a greater effort to be more mindful of number two. Two surgeries this year have me thinking much more about my health. Thanks for sharing this post. I will share it with my spouse. Have a wonderful day.

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    1. Always nice to know the value and impact words and concepts create on our lives. It sounds like you have been through quite a lot in one year. I often write that two words in the English language create motivation to change behavior. These two words are PAIN and PLEASURE. If we experience enough of either one, behavior changes! The concepts I put forth are designed to increase PLEASURE. Unfortunately, most people seem to require PAIN thresholds to be crossed before change (potentially) occurs. I hope your experiences (both positive and negative) have truly motivated you to seek a better direction for yourself. As a gifted writer your talents should never be compromised because of lifestyle choices. You will see, once the “light bulb” is switched on, there’s no turning back! If you ever need a hand, you know where to find me.
      Thank you so much for your ongoing contributions to my articles. Your support is greatly appreciated.

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      1. I can’t speak for others, but I have learned so much from pain and misfortune. It appears to be the great professor in our lives. If we learn from our pain, then at least it served a purpose. You provoke some deep thoughts with your post. Always a pleasure to stop to read your work. Keep writing my friend. It benefits us all.

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        1. Always searching for brains in need of stimulation. I hope people apply some of the suggestions and gain the benefits I’m certain will prevail. Thank you again for all your support. Looking forward to seeing what ideas pop up for tomorrow’s post. Until then…

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          1. Hopefully, people read your post for inspiration and then continue to read your future posts for reinforcement. I am hearing your messages loud and clear. Thanks so much.

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  2. Excellent post….the sooner we learn to like and actually love ourselves….life just gets easier, commitment to our goals, relationships and ourselves seems to just happen without struggle…..I never put myself on the list at all, but about a year ago I took some classes, did a 12 step program (Overeaters Anonymous) to help sort out my emotional, internal turmoil in my life, there I learned the basics to love myself once again, regardless of where I was in life….so now I am at the top of all my list, if I don’t care and nurture myself first then how can I love anyone else with all that I am….thanks for the post….kat

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  3. On my way to work, after yet another dentist appointment this morning, I was thinking to myself, “If my house were about to be demolished, what three things would I rescue from it before it was razed?”

    The question assumed that family is my most important asset, so all people would get out safely, but after that…. It made me think. What is really, really, REALLY important to me? In my scenario I got to choose three things I would save from the wrecking crew. What a luxury-three!

    Then I read your post. It made me think of how I mused about what’s important in my life.

    Action Plans–we don’t get anywhere without one!

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    1. Congratulations on surviving another dental appointment!
      Sometimes each of us needs to take a moment to step back and out of our reality to see where we are and where we’re headed. We get so caught up in life’s turmoil, we consider it a success just to get through the day. Although each day is challenging in its own way, our lives can’t progressive forward if we don’t change our methods to deal with life. This article attempts to show people a new path can be created.
      Thank you for your comment. It gives all of us something to think about.

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  4. What a beautiful testimony and contribution for ALL the readers. Thank you for sharing your personal story. Many people are currently in the position you found yourself in. They will greatly benefit from you; a person they will be able to identify and personally grow from. Your words will act as motivation and inspiration.

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  5. I have noticed that I have too much going on in my life. I spend my day, when I am actually awake, writing – articles for publication or my own blog, stories, poems, trying to read others and that is the extent of my day. I quit watching tv shows, even the ones I loved. I think I have become too vested in my writing and blog, but it fulfills me and to be honest I think part of this is in God’s plan for me as he makes it possible for me to have the wherewithal to make it through the pain of sitting for more than half an hour. I could have gotten a laptop where I could write in bed, but I tried it with my dad’s and I just wasn’t comfortable. I don’t know if it is God’s plan for me or the Bipolar, but I have flipped a switch and I want to write. I want to be known for my writing even if it means writing for free and seeing my name in print in my little group of blogs and facebookers. I never had any desire to really do anything. The closest I got to a dream job is designing web sites, but it really wasn’t my thing. Did 2 of them and then got tired of it. I have always wanted to write and thought since once person rejected me when I was 17 that I was no good. God has led me to my strength and has made me see that I am good and can be published. What more proof do I need?

    So can my personal time include the writing I do all day anyhow. Maybe a new piece that is not Bipolar related? Something just for my own fun?

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    1. Absolutely. Personal time is used doing whatever you choose to; NOT have to! Writing is a wonderful positive release. It is constructive and gives you a chance to channel stress.

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      1. I can’t seem to stop writing and now I am writing Haikus and putting them on pictures that go with them. I am having a lot of fun. I just wrote another article, but I am way ahead of schedule now. I will have a stash of them soon in my folder.

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        1. Congratulations, you are beginning to truly sound happy. You have found your passion. This is only the beginning. This doesn’t mean there won’t be bad days; it means the good days will substantially outweigh the bad.

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          1. I do believe you!

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  6. Excellent post.
    I am still learning this very simple thing after 47 years.
    I will get there one day but it is hard when we are conditioned to put others first.

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    1. Like I wrote, if it was easy, everyone would achieve success. Keep working hard; the payoff will be witnessed all along the journey.

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      1. I shall indeed continue with my efforts. In fact, back to the gym this morning…

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  7. I love this. Most of us wouldn’t put ourselves on our list of priorities would we, and yet you’re right, it’s absolutely essential. I think I am naturally inclined to listen to and care for myself, but for many years I considered that quality about me selfish.

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    1. I think selfish relates more to a person that thinks about themselves at other people’s expense. Until a person can truly experience self love, they may not be able to share the depth of this emotion with others. After reading some of your posts, you seem in touch with your emotions. That is a real blessing.

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  8. I remember when I was little and flying somewhere with my parents, I found it scary that people were instructed to put oxygen masks on themselves before their children. I remember asking my dad if he was going to save me (it makes me laugh now that I was worried he wouldn’t!).

    Your post reminded me that before you can take care of others, you need to take care of yourself. When my dad was sick, I didn’t do that (and neither did my mom). We didn’t eat properly, we didn’t exercise, we didn’t sleep well, and we were simply not balanced individuals. Looking back, I’m not sure that I would change any of that – I don’t have enough distance – but I know that I am still suffering the consequences of being so hard on my body during that time. My dad certainly didn’t want that for me and he always encouraged me to take care of myself and not worry about him (which, at that time, was impossible for me).

    I think this post is an important reminder that we do need to take the time to make ourselves a priority. Good health and happiness isn’t going to come to those who aren’t willing to put in the effort. In extenuating circumstances, it can be a real challenge to remember to do it though.

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    1. I believe that learning to take care of yourself is almost required to having the skills, wants and desires to truly take care of others. It creates a basis, a foundation upon which feelings and emotions can develop. It is part of the package to balancing one’s life.

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  9. Your really write Life Lifting post! THANK YOU! Light and Love, Shona

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    1. Thank you so much. I am just trying to show the world that good and positive can be found and used to make each of our lives better. It only becomes too late once we die.

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      1. Keep trying to show the world! Your efforts are not in vain. I speak as a beneficiary! Light and Love, Shona

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        1. You can count on it! Thank you.

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  10. The admonitions in the graphics are worthy companions to the admonitions in the text. Yes, the distinction between reacting and responding is subtle but important.

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    1. Thank you for your compliment and comment. I look forward to your feedback. I have great respect for your analytical intellect as well as your creative skills to elicit all types of emotions. I appreciate your thoughtful contributions on your blog site as much as mine.

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