I write about health because it is my PASSION. When I awaken in the morning I scan my mind for the potential activities of the day. I get excited about this daily ritual which always puts a smile on my face. Am I going to lift weights, bike ride, train on an elliptical, take Tucker (my beagle) to the park for a walk, run on the treadmill, etc… As many people read this and think to themselves, “this doesn’t sound very exciting or motivational,” I respectfully challenge your sentiments. Excitement and motivation starts in the mind. If you “think” of exercise as drudgery, it will always be viewed in a negative light. Negativity doesn’t inspire. The activities I mentioned provide me the physical and mental condition to do all the activities in life I choose to do. This reality I find very inspiring. My favorite physical activities are athletics (long distance bike touring, softball, golf, bowling, tennis, racquetball), and travel. It is important to me to plan these activities without concern about physical limitations. I want to participate and enjoy these activities without pain, fear of injury or lack of capability. At nearly 56 years of age, I do not worry about “being the best.” I enjoy the comradery, the competition and the level of energy these activities provide. I am free to participate in any activity without fear of restrictions. I express this exuberance so people are aware that life’s limiting factors can be overcome. It all starts with deciding what is important. This is followed by a game plan to make it a reality.
Without a realistic game plan, it is merely a “wish.”
I am inspired by Bloggers, the Facebook community and Tweeters writing about challenges and hurdles they need to overcome. I have come to realize that I experience real emotional pain when I read about the recurring “mistakes” they make interfering with their progress. Although our comments to these people are well-intentioned, we have become enablers. We attempt to help others stay positive by saying things like:
“tomorrow is another day”
“you can do it”
“no one is perfect, next time you’ll do better”
“good for you for trying”
“get back on that horse”
I have thought long and hard about this, because I did not want to irritate or anger anyone. My intent is to be empathetic and honest. Sometimes people need a dose of reality to change course and move forward. As we repeat actions over and over again that we know will interfere with our goals in life, we want our community to tell us its ok. The results of these comments become detrimental because they unintentionally wipe the slate clean without accountability. Human behavior is a difficult intangible part of us that reacts emotionally one time and rationally/logically another. We need approval with our recurring mistakes and this is exactly what the five statements above reinforce. It is my opinion that this is the wrong message.
It is human and even beneficial to make mistakes. They help redirect us to achieve new growth and development. When “mistakes” are repeated over and over again, there is an underlying behavioral issue not being addressed correctly. Once we receive “forgiveness” from the community without changing behavior to prevent this from recurring, we are inadvertently given permission to repeat the same “mistake”. I have seen these well-intentioned comments for people with chronic
It is important that all readers understand how much I truly care to take the time to identify this potential problem. There is no personal gain from writing these words. I hope with all my heart that people recognize within themselves the need for this change I talk about. Once this change occurs, it then becomes possible to achieve additional success, fulfillment and happiness.
I leave you with the inspirational words spoken by Dicky Fox in the movie Jerry McGuire :
“Hey, I don’t have all the answers, in life, to be honest, I’ve failed as much as I’ve succeeded. But, I love my wife; I love my life and I wish you my kind of success!”